Not yet

Husband reassured that he'll be there for me when the time comes.
He promised not to vomit or pass out.
He'd even video tape the whole thing.
And will spend countless hours waiting patiently armed with his netbook. 
('will' =  a modal verb to indicate a certain future. Keyword : CERTAIN)


Promises ey?


I refuse to watch that famous video everyone was talking about.
He however, got excited by it.


Then, I read this blog post:
http://aididmuaddib.blogspot.com/2011/04/lightning-crashes.html


I so horribly missed the message conveyed. I focussed on the blow-by-blow description instead.
Damn. I'm spooked.


In case you are wondering, no, we're not preggers yet. But at least 3 to 4 people have already almost-congratulated us, including one doctor. I wonder what it was that they see in our faces to assume so.
...
If only they know how deep the water runs beneath..

I thought using a non-human photo reduces the 'ngilu' feeling a bit. No?

10 Marriage Myths Busted Don't Fall for These Marriage Myths By Sheri & Bob Stritof

Straight on blow by blow copy paste because I don't have the strength to talk about an issue I am apparently clueless about.

If you rely on any of these myths to strengthen your marriage, you will be disappointed. These marriage myths belong in the shredder.

Myth 1:

Love is all you need to have a successful marriage.

Truth: Although love is extremely important in your marriage, to have a successful marriage, your relationship needs much more.

Myth 2:

Your spouse should fill your needs.

Truth: Although everyone has emotional needs, expecting your spouse to fill all these needs is unfair and unreasonable.

Myth 3:

You can save your marriage by having a baby.

Truth: Parents need to be lovers. If your marriage is in trouble, don't think having a baby will make things better between the two of you. Generally, having a baby adds stress to a marriage. Having a baby may lessen the amount of quality time alone and also lessen spontaneous sex in your marriage.

Myth 4:

You can change your spouse.

Truth: You can't change your spouse. The only person you can truly change is yourself.

Myth 5:

It only takes one of you to save your marriage.

Truth: Regardless of what or who created problems in your marriage, it will take both of you being willing to face and to talk about the difficult issues in order to save your marriage.

Myth 6:

Living together before you get married guarantees a long lasting marriage.

Truth: Cohabitation does not necessarily give the two of you an easy road ahead in your marriage.

Myth 7:

If you have a successful marriage, you are just lucky.

Truth: Couples who have long lasting marriages generally have both commitment and friendship in their relationship with one another.

Myth 8:

Don't go to bed angry. Finish the fight.

Truth: Sometimes, getting a good night's sleep is more important than trying to finish an argument when you are both exhausted. Set an appointment within the next 24 hours tofinish the fight.

Myth 9:

The longer you are married, the closer you will become.

Truth: If they didn't spend quality time together in the pre-empty nest years, more and more couples who have been married 30 or more years are getting divorced.

Myth 10:

It is important to spend all your free time together.

Truth: Time alone is an important aspect of who you are as an emotionally healthy individual.

Add on Myth 11:

If he's a cheat from before marriage, don't expect that philandering habit to go away once you are bonded in holy matrimony. To them holy don't mean shit.

Have a happy marriage! :)

John Legend - Everybody Knows

No baby girl, sometimes getting hurt and moving on are part and parcel of growing up.

Just. let it go.

Faith in you since I was an angsty teen.

Cool muse while doing work late at night:

http://youtu.be/q-XLvUpvjZo

rain rain go away

If there is just ONE thing that totally irks me it has to be

MOODY GRUMPY PEOPLE.  


U can identify them from miles away when they are having their swing
- audible breaths - indicating pent up anger. Like duh, what is it that you have, cancer? Aids? Does your problem really not have any solution to it?


- bang things - to get attention. Not very different than a baby's tantrum. Excuse me, are you 3 years old? Can't you just COMMUNICATE properly?


- swearing - you have to be raised by a truck driver to have such a shining vocabulary. This does nothing but makes the people around the person feel unsafe.


- road rage - It's okay if you want to kill yourself. Just don't drag others down the grave with you. Please. Most of us have a good life and loving people we do not wish to disappoint.


- annoying tone of voice - again, are you 3?


The main reason I dislike grumpy people is mainly because my mood and state of mind is very easily influenced / affected by them.
I don't  know about you, but I LIKE being happy and positive. When I have these people banging things in front of me - making me jump, or steal extra amount of my oxygen with their horse-like snorts I really, really just want to get far away from them for fear that I just might hurt them with my bare hands.


There is no harm in voicing your dissatisfaction or opinion. There are better ways to get attention than throwing things around.


Try taking deep breaths and put your annoyance into words. Tell people what is it that they do that you do not see fit. Let people know how it makes you feel.


eg: It disappoints me that no matter how hard I try, you are not happy.
eg: It really annoys me when you speak like that. Please lower your voices!
eg: I do not understand why idiots like them cut my line.


These of course can be accompanied with different tone of voice (note: controlled anger), facial expression, body language and maybe, hand gestures (minus the middle finger move - it doesn't make you look smart, though I know some circumstances REALLY does deserve it. Not all the time tho)


I have grown up with these kind of people and personally, I think they create a toxic environment when they get into their swings.
Thankfully, the persons I grew up with have reduced their moodiness and change their ways as they get older.
I just do not want to be reminded of how painful it is living within a close proximity to a grouch.
It makes my blood boil and curdle, alternatively, I fear I might die of stroke or pulmonary disease.


I may have my anger management problem too due long term suppressed anger and dissatisfaction when I was growing up. But I have learned from a pragmatic person whom I adore to this day that voicing out, communicating and discussing are better ways to get things done or across.


Yes, we are happy shiny people, does that annoy you?

wish list

1. a trip to remote islands in Sabah
2. grab and answer YES to every airasia deals that have been spamming my email and phone.
3. to know where the heck I'll be next year. This house? That place? Which state?
4. to be able to start building mom's house before she gets too old to even see the wall finishing.
5. to leave.this.place
6. to finally embark on my Masters degree coz I damn deserve it.
7. to first figure out the field I am interested to pursue in the first place!
8. to be able to get praises and reassurance without having to demand for them.
9. give Maxis the up-yours sign for their messed up signal strength in spots that are vital to me.
10. live in a cleaner, more hygienic place that is not just waiting to be burn down to get sanitized.

tbc-

perfect wedding song