Wednesday 27 April 2011

Tuesday 26 April 2011

down in the dumps

Sometimes,
even if we try very hard,
even if we put a smile on our faces,
even if we plan and plot and keep moving forward,
deep down we feel a tug.
That brings us back down
down in the dumps.

Wednesday 20 April 2011

Not yet

Husband reassured that he'll be there for me when the time comes.
He promised not to vomit or pass out.
He'd even video tape the whole thing.
And will spend countless hours waiting patiently armed with his netbook. 
('will' =  a modal verb to indicate a certain future. Keyword : CERTAIN)


Promises ey?


I refuse to watch that famous video everyone was talking about.
He however, got excited by it.


Then, I read this blog post:
http://aididmuaddib.blogspot.com/2011/04/lightning-crashes.html


I so horribly missed the message conveyed. I focussed on the blow-by-blow description instead.
Damn. I'm spooked.


In case you are wondering, no, we're not preggers yet. But at least 3 to 4 people have already almost-congratulated us, including one doctor. I wonder what it was that they see in our faces to assume so.
...
If only they know how deep the water runs beneath..

I thought using a non-human photo reduces the 'ngilu' feeling a bit. No?

Sunday 17 April 2011

10 Marriage Myths Busted Don't Fall for These Marriage Myths By Sheri & Bob Stritof

Straight on blow by blow copy paste because I don't have the strength to talk about an issue I am apparently clueless about.



If you rely on any of these myths to strengthen your marriage, you will be disappointed. These marriage myths belong in the shredder.

Myth 1:

Love is all you need to have a successful marriage.
Truth: Although love is extremely important in your marriage, to have a successful marriage, your relationship needs much more.

Myth 2:

Your spouse should fill your needs.
Truth: Although everyone has emotional needs, expecting your spouse to fill all these needs is unfair and unreasonable.

Myth 3:

You can save your marriage by having a baby.
Truth: Parents need to be lovers. If your marriage is in trouble, don't think having a baby will make things better between the two of you. Generally, having a baby adds stress to a marriage. Having a baby may lessen the amount of quality time alone and also lessen spontaneous sex in your marriage.

Myth 4:

You can change your spouse.
Truth: You can't change your spouse. The only person you can truly change is yourself.

Myth 5:

It only takes one of you to save your marriage.
Truth: Regardless of what or who created problems in your marriage, it will take both of you being willing to face and to talk about the difficult issues in order to save your marriage.

Myth 6:

Living together before you get married guarantees a long lasting marriage.
Truth: Cohabitation does not necessarily give the two of you an easy road ahead in your marriage.

Myth 7:

If you have a successful marriage, you are just lucky.
Truth: Couples who have long lasting marriages generally have both commitment and friendship in their relationship with one another.

Myth 8:

Don't go to bed angry. Finish the fight.
Truth: Sometimes, getting a good night's sleep is more important than trying to finish an argument when you are both exhausted. Set an appointment within the next 24 hours tofinish the fight.

Myth 9:

The longer you are married, the closer you will become.
Truth: If they didn't spend quality time together in the pre-empty nest years, more and more couples who have been married 30 or more years are getting divorced.

Myth 10:

It is important to spend all your free time together.
Truth: Time alone is an important aspect of who you are as an emotionally healthy individual.
Add on Myth 11:
If he's a cheat from before marriage, don't expect that philandering habit to go away once you are bonded in holy matrimony. To them holy don't mean shit.
Have a happy marriage! :)

Wednesday 13 April 2011

John Legend - Everybody Knows

No baby girl, sometimes getting hurt and moving on are part and parcel of growing up.
Just. let it go.

Faith in you since I was an angsty teen.

Cool muse while doing work late at night:

http://youtu.be/q-XLvUpvjZo