U can identify them from miles away when they are having their swing
- audible breaths - indicating pent up anger. Like duh, what is it that you have, cancer? Aids? Does your problem really not have any solution to it?
- bang things - to get attention. Not very different than a baby's tantrum. Excuse me, are you 3 years old? Can't you just COMMUNICATE properly?
- swearing - you have to be raised by a truck driver to have such a shining vocabulary. This does nothing but makes the people around the person feel unsafe.
- road rage - It's okay if you want to kill yourself. Just don't drag others down the grave with you. Please. Most of us have a good life and loving people we do not wish to disappoint.
- annoying tone of voice - again, are you 3?
The main reason I dislike grumpy people is mainly because my mood and state of mind is very easily influenced / affected by them.
I don't know about you, but I LIKE being happy and positive. When I have these people banging things in front of me - making me jump, or steal extra amount of my oxygen with their horse-like snorts I really, really just want to get far away from them for fear that I just might hurt them with my bare hands.
There is no harm in voicing your dissatisfaction or opinion. There are better ways to get attention than throwing things around.
Try taking deep breaths and put your annoyance into words. Tell people what is it that they do that you do not see fit. Let people know how it makes you feel.
eg: It disappoints me that no matter how hard I try, you are not happy.
eg: It really annoys me when you speak like that. Please lower your voices!
eg: I do not understand why idiots like them cut my line.
These of course can be accompanied with different tone of voice (note: controlled anger), facial expression, body language and maybe, hand gestures (minus the middle finger move - it doesn't make you look smart, though I know some circumstances REALLY does deserve it. Not all the time tho)
I have grown up with these kind of people and personally, I think they create a toxic environment when they get into their swings.
Thankfully, the persons I grew up with have reduced their moodiness and change their ways as they get older.
I just do not want to be reminded of how painful it is living within a close proximity to a grouch.
It makes my blood boil and curdle, alternatively, I fear I might die of stroke or pulmonary disease.
I may have my anger management problem too due long term suppressed anger and dissatisfaction when I was growing up. But I have learned from a pragmatic person whom I adore to this day that voicing out, communicating and discussing are better ways to get things done or across.
Yes, we are happy shiny people, does that annoy you?
