CAUTION: if you tend to show allergic reactions to angsty Bridezilla's posts, by all means, click away from this page.As hinted, I have been planning a wedding for months now.
Unfortunately, I too have fallen into the rut where every decision meets a brick wall.
Frustrations, indecisive-ness (is this a word?), cancellations, rejections, coups and many other unforeseen threats just drive me nuts week in week out.
No, I do not blog about my 'adventures' much because... I'm just not that type. So many ppl can't read my thoughts, do not know my hopes and wishes and just are not aware of my ups and downs.
But,
Here just In This Box, I want to clearly state one thing that has raised it's ugly head every now and then in the past few months while I'm running around planning (p/s- I do feel ashamed to have this feelings that I could not deny):
I. hate. people who, upon being around bride-to-bes, turn everything to be about them them them them.
Exhibit A
bridetobe: Um, my mom has hijacked my wedding gown designs and is now directing me about what NOT to wear *tears*
bimb#1: Gee, I wonder what I'M gonna wear to your wedding. I saw this dress once blablabla. When I get married, I'm SO DAMN sure I would be wearing blablabla.
Exhibit B
-bridetobe and bimb#2 go out shopping for cakes-
bimb#2: oh.my.god. THAT is going to be MY wedding cake. Yes, I know I'm not engaged yet, and that boy I went out with last Sunday seems to be more interested in his hair more than anything, but still, I'm already booking my caterer!
So you see, I acknowledge that we all have our preferences and yes, many many girls plan and plot their dream wedding every now and then throughout their lives. However, I really hate to break it to you that when it comes to wedding, it IS all about the BRIDE. Even the Groom pales in comparison. Don't believe me? Try being one. Ok fine,I'm biased. Do try reading through magazines or wedding websites and you'll understand what I mean.
Here I summarize a few points that may (or may not, who cares) represent Bridezillas' thoughts in general.
1. We are already so stressed out with the many arrangements we have to deal with, let alone the budget, the MOTHER OF THE BRIDE and time constraints (oh yes, with wedding, there is no "too long"). So, any unhelpful input is just...unnecessary noise.
2. Be mindful that brides just need help and support. So, please keep YOUR wedding to yourself first until it is time and just be there FOR us (unless you are getting married at the same time, then by all means, yay to us and lets share tips!). If we do not consider you a good friend (or sibling) we wouldn't have bothered you with our qualms pertaining to the wedding prep in the first place.
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4. It's not like we do not care what you look like on our wedding day or what your hopes and dreams are for your big day. It's just that our braincells are filled and fully preoccupied with the matter at hand. This is especially so when we are stressed out because the card-maker is on vacation or because the caterer sangat 'syok sendiri'. So thousand apologies fr not being able to be more empathetic towards YOU.
I think I may have more but at the moment, this is all I have to vent about. May weddings continue to be a crazy journey we all look forward to but want to get it over and done with all at the same time.
